The word “Change” mean different interpretation to different people. Change can either be positive or negative.

Change is not a new phenomenon. It has been part of our lives and our organization for a long time. Change is natural and this is buttressed by the elementary saying “The only constant thing in life is change”.

What is Change itself?

There is no universal acceptable definition for the concept called Change.

According to Oxford Dictionary of Current English define, Change.n 1 (a) making or becoming different, (b) alteration or modification.

We now live in a world of change- at the individual, social, corporate, national, regional, and global level.

We are truly in seasons of change!

It will take an informed global minded, spiritually sensitive, skilled, educated, purpose-inspired people to effectively make a difference in our generation and set a standard for the generations to come.

The 21st Century can be referred as the century of change, which occurs rapidly in the area of Globalization, Information, Communication, Mobilization, Cultural Diversification, Mergers and Networking, Longevity of Life, Technology, Social and Political Transition, and Rapid Transformation.

Across the globe, Leaders are sensing an urgency to integrate their nations into these changes. Old Leadership styles lost their effectiveness and must yield to the new equation of 21st century Leadership.

Dr Myles Munroe, In the Principles and Benefits of Change: Fulfilling your Purpose in Unsettled times writes extensively on the phenemenon called “Change”.

Change is one of the most important factors in life, whether that changes is imposed on us or we’ve created the change ourselves and are eagerly anticipating its possibilities.

Yet, most people don’t manage effectively and positively, some believe that change just “happen” and they don’t think seriously about the effects change is having on them.

Many also neglect to initiate positive changes that would make a significant difference in their lives and the lives of others. And the majority of us end up, in some ways, the victims of unwanted change.

There are four types of change and they are…

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Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.


There’s a conflict that often happens when we try to be disciplined about something: I want that cinnamon roll right now, but I know I’ll regret it later.

Which interest should win out: your future self, who doesn’t want you to get fat and unhealthy … or your present self, who doesn’t care so much about that and just wants to taste something delicious?

There’s no right answer. The present self usually wins, because he controls the action and so his interests are more important. But the future self actually has a stronger case: he’s actually a bunch of future selves (you in 10 minutes from now, an hour from now, a day from now, three days from now, a year later, and so on). So shouldn’t a thousand future selves outweigh the current self’s interest?

Well, we usually just say, “Screw it, I don’t care what future me wants … I’m going for the cinnamon roll.”

Today, I’d like to share a simple method for avoiding the junk food. And finding discipline across the board: exercise, meditate, eat healthily, write your book, find focus instead of distraction.

We do this by merging the two interests. Imagine you were going to lunch with your friend, and you had to decide where to eat. You each have different preferences.

Choosing one over the other — going to Japanese food (your friend’s preference) instead vegan Mexican (yours) — isn’t fair. So maybe you pick a third choice that you both like (a place that serves sushi burritos, perhaps). Or maybe you choose this time, and your friend chooses the next time. Either way, both are happy.

So how do we merge the interests of future and present selves? I call it Savor Discipline.

It’s three short steps:

First, consider future you. Take a few seconds to consider what future you would want. In the case of the cinnamon roll, your future self would prefer that you not eat the roll. It will contribute to his weight problem and make his health worse (in conjunction with other similar eating choices), but not give him any benefit. You know this because your present self can look back on similar choices in the past — and you can see that you wish you hadn’t eaten all that junk. Future self will have similar feelings about what you do right now.

Second, consider present you. The interests of your present self might seem obvious — you want to eat the pastry! But actually, present self has other interests. For example: present self would like to be healthy and fit, and perhaps present self would also like to learn, be mindful, grateful, successful, and more. The taste of the cinnamon roll is just one interest of many.

Now merge your interests. If future and present you were two friends, with different interests … how could they make it work? One idea is to take turns — present self eats the pastry this time, future self gets the carrot next time. After all, why should just one of you get the choice all the time? It would be no fun if you only ate vegetables, but it would not be healthy if you only ate the pastries. Another way to merge the interests is to find something that both would be happy with. Not a compromise as much as a third option that both would like. I call that option Savor Discipline.

What’s Savor Discipline? It’s basically not choosing the pastry (only present self would like that), and it’s not sacrificing and being unhappy (future self might be cool with that but present self wouldn’t) … it’s finding something to savor in the present moment.

An example: skip the junk food and savor some berries, slowly and mindfully. Or take a walk and enjoy the fresh air and beautiful sunlight. Or read a book and enjoy the quiet time alone. Or learn something, dance to music, do something good for someone else, create something cool. And for each of these activities, savor the activity as if it were the most amazing thing in the world.

Because it can be. If you eat a berry with the fresh eyes of a two-year-old, you stop taking it for granted and start seeing how much of a miracle it is. You can savor its deliciousness, just as much as you could enjoy the junk food.

You can savor many things in the present moment, and your present self can enjoy the living daylights out of it. Your future self will be thrilled.

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Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.

Many of us are familiar with the idea of loving our spouses, children, or parents unconditionally — and we might even try to practice that unconditional love, though imperfectly.

But do we try to love ourselves unconditionally?

Consider whether you do any of these (I sure do):

Criticize your body.
Feel like you need to improve at things.
Feel guilty about things you do.
Feel undisciplined, lazy, unhappy with yourself.
Not feel good enough.
Fear that you’re going to fail, because you’re not good enough.
See yourself as not that good looking.
Feel bad about messing up.
For many of us, there’s an underlying feeling of not being good enough, wanting to be better, wanting to be in better shape or better at things. This isn’t something we think about much, but it’s there, in the background.

What if we applied unconditional acceptance of who we are? What if we took a good look at ourselves, our body, our thoughts, our feelings, our actions, and said, “You are perfectly OK. You are perfectly good”?

Would that be a whole different experience for you? Could you accept every single thing about yourself, just as you are, without feeling that it needs to be changed?

I know what many people will immediately say: “But what’s wrong with wanting to improve, with seeing things that need to be improved? Doesn’t feeling bad about ourselves motivate us to change?”

Yes, it can be a motivator. But feeling bad about yourself can also be an obstacle: people who feel that they are fat, for example, are more likely to eat poorly and not exercise, because they see themselves as fat. They are likely to feel bad about themselves and to comfort themselves with food, alcohol, cigarettes, TV, Internet addictions.

What if instead, you loved yourself, fat body and all? What if you loved yourself, laziness and all? What if you loved yourself, all that is ugly and incompetent and mean, along with the beauty and brilliance and kindness?

This person who loves herself (or himself) … she’s more likely to take actions that are loving. Doing some mindful yoga, or taking a walk with a friend after work, eating delicious healthy food like beans and veggies and nuts and berries and mangos and avocados, meditating, drinking some green tea … these are loving actions.

Acceptance isn’t stagnation — you will change no matter what. You can’t avoid changing. The question is whether that change comes from a place of acceptance and love, or a place of self-dislike and dissatisfaction. I vote for unconditional love

*N.B: This is post is culled from my Mentor’s (Leo Babauta) blog,

Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.

“The conscious mind may be compared to a fountain playing in the sun and falling back into the great subterranean pool of subconscious from which it rises-Sigmund Freud”

Is generalissimo in charge of your mental forces garrison?

Is your porter at the door post?

Is your watchman vigilant and alert at your gate?

All the questions is about your conscious mind

Robert Collier in his book, The Secret of the Ages: The Master Code to Abundance and Achievement, when you say “I see—I hear—I smell—I touch,” it is your conscious mind that is saying this, for it is the force governing the five physical senses. It is the phase of mind with which you feel and reason—-the phase mind with which everyone is familiar. It is the mind with which you do business.

What is this Conscious Mind?

According to, Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic theory of personality, the conscious mind consists of everything inside of our awareness. This is the aspect of our mental processing that we can think and talk about in a rational way.

The conscious mind includes such things as the sensations, perceptions, memories, feeling and fantasies inside of our current awareness. Closely allied with the conscious mind is the preconscious, which includes the things that we are not thinking of at the moment but which we can easily draw into conscious awareness.

Can you believe this? There is some days in the early this year where my conscious mind is feeding me with suggestion of fear or worry or failure, disease, and so on.

The Generalissimo controls, to a great extent, all your voluntary muscles. It discriminates between the right and wrong, wise and foolish.

Have you noticed how your conscious mind wander in the recent time?

The most important province of your conscious mind is to center your thought on the thing you want, “Believe that you receive,” and then shut the door on every suggestion of fear or failure or worry or whatsoever.

You wouldn’t expect much from an army, no matter how fine its soliders, whose general never planned ahead, who distrusted his own ability and that of his men, and who spent all his time worrying about the enemy instead of planning how he might conquer them.

So what’s the way out?

You have to MASTER your Mind!

Your mind is master of your body. It directs and controls every functions of your body. Your body is in effect a little universe in itself, and mind its radiating center—-the sun which gives light and life to all your system, and around which the whole revolves. And your conscious thought is master of this sun center.

Watch out for my next article, THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.

Keep posted!

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Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.

Is there truly a problem?

The titled of this article is based on my yesterday’s interaction with my 7years Old daughter.

I put a call through to my wife and children every morning and evening in order to know their welfare because I stayed in a different state due to power of industrial revolution.

When my wife picked the call, we did the usual ritual of exchanging pleasantries like “How is today? And the likes. I asked her to pass the phone around to other members of the family.

The phone got to Moyo, my 7years Old daughter and she said “Daddy, there is a problem!”

Guess what?

My heart did a somersault and different thoughts flooded my mind per nanosecond.

Is the problem from the school?
Is the problem from their neighbour?
Is the problem from their homefront?
And so on

To cut long story short, I asked her, “What is the problem?”


Moyo replied, “Daddy, can you believed my Mummy didn’t buy us ICE-CREAM this evening!”

Is this truly a problem in the real sense?

I stumbled on Steve Chandler’s book, Reinventing Yourself: How to become the person You’ve always wanted to be. He titled his introduction page “Are you an owner or a victim?”

“Are you an owner or a victim” this is a $1Million question that need to be answered.

As you look back on your life so far, you will see that you always have had two basic ways of being. At any given time, you were either one way, or you were the other, you were either an owner of the human spirit, or you were a victim of circumstance.

The choice is yours!

When my daughter said the title of this post, what came to my mind is: am I an owner or a victim?

Answering the question in every situation would give peace of mind and it would help you live a stress-free life

I used to tell my protégés, the word “Problem” is negative that they should replace it with the word “Challenge” which is positive.

One way, the ownership way, reinvent you as you go. It reinvents you outward, in an ever-expanding circle of compassion, vision, and courage.

The other way (the victim way) shrinks you down. Just as your muscles shrink when they are not moving, so do your heart and soul when you are in the your victim mode.

The minute you owned the challenge (problem), you are free to become the solution. You switched from VICTIM to OWNER!

Welcome to FREEDOM!

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Keep posted!

Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.

What is music to you?

How do you feel when listening to music?

What is favorite kind of music?

Do you listening to music often?

Why all these questions on music?

According to Wikipedia, Music is an art form whose medium is sound. Its common elements are pitch (which governs melody and harmony), rhythm (and its associated concepts tempo, meter, and articulation), dynamics, and the sonic qualities of timbre and texture. The word derives from Greek μουσική (mousike; “art of the Muses”).

The creation, performance, significance, and even the definition of music vary according to culture and social context. Music ranges from strictly organized compositions (and their recreation in performance), through improvisational music to aleatoric forms. Music can be divided into genres and subgenres, although the dividing lines and relationships between music genres are often subtle, sometimes open to personal interpretation, and occasionally controversial.

Music Therapy
According to Oxford Dictionary of Psychology, Music therapy n. A form of psychotherapy with clients or patients are encouraged to express their feeling and inner conflict through music

I got an insight about the concept “Music therapy from my elder Sister, Favour who is a Mental Nurse in London. She described how much is being used for the treatment of mental disorders and allied problems.

Is Music therapy restricted only to mental ill people?

The answer is No?

Based on my personal experience, I had a challenging moments in my life in the mid of this year which nearly affects my relationship with my family, friennds, colleagues, and the job. The situation is borne-out of my fear of unknown.

Those period of time was like hell for me but music soothed my soul and gave me inspiration and guidance that I can outcome this challenging moments which I eventually overcame.

Did you know, most of our fears does not come true? Most outcomes of fears negates our pre-conceived event which drives us helpless.

“Music is the balm that heals the forlorn ache of a distant star.” – Don Williams Jr.

Steve Chandler writes in his book, 100 ways to motivate yourself: From now on, make it a personal commitment to notice everything that pushes your buttons. Make a note of everything that inspires you. That’s your control panel. Tose buttons oper ate your whole system of personal motivation.

Motivation doesn’t have to be accidental. For example, you don’t have to wait for hours until a certain song that picks up your spirits comes on the radio. You can control what songs you hear. If there are certain songs that always lift you up, make a mix of those songs and have it ready to play in your car.

Go through all of your music and create a “greatest motivational hits” playlist for yourself

Did you agree with me on music therapy?

Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.

This post is a continuation of an earlier one:4 Stages to Greatness:

The next stage to greatness is Sculpting after the Chipping. This is different than chipping which is a process whereby when you take off what doesn’t belong.

But Sculpting is the fine art of study of slowly and delicately revealing the form and beauty of your masterpiece. This is where the artist make the piece become what it is intended to become.

When we have allowed life and our action of disciple to eliminate that which hide our true inner selves, we then must actually form the life that we want to lead.

The tools of a sculptor are few,but the tools for sculpting a life is many. We are a product of the things that we allow to shape and infleunce our lives. Everything that we interact with will shape and mold whom we become. This include both what we choose to involve ourselves with as well as what we choose to not involve ourselve with.

Let me start with what we choose to involve with:

First and foremost are the people who we involve with. Our business associates and friends are people who we can choose at will. We should seek out those who will challenge and encourage us to become the very best that we can become. The goal is to have a network of people around us who act as a springboard to a better life.

The second is the books that we read. Yes books. I like to view books as the ability to converse with the author. I like to imagine that the author is speaking these ideas to me. I react and ask questions in my mind as i read, allowing me to converse with the author.

This way i am not bound by limitation of time and space. I can be friends with the greatest mind that walk, and have walked, the earth. I can have them speak into my life and challenge my thinking all the while having them shape my life and help me become a better person, a more successful person.

Many people viewed books as boring and waste of time, yet if they view it as an opportunity to sit down with the author and learn from them, we open ourselves to whole new levels of learning growth.

The lesson here, is that our lives are sculptured and formed primarily by the people we associate with and the books that we read. When people grasp that concept,they are prepared to shape their lives into what they want them to become.

N.B: Keep posted for the continuation

Excerpt from Angel Inside

Akeem Gbadamosi, M.Sc Industrial Relations and Human Resource Management.